When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along (Paperback)
A unique book helping parents whose relationship with their older or adult child has not turned out as they expected deal with their pain, shame, and sense of loss, and take steps toward healing.
This unique book supports parents who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents:
• Reduce anger, guilt, and shame
• Learn how temperament, the teen years, their own or a partner’s mistakes, and divorce can harm the parent-child bond
• Come to terms with their imperfections and their child’s
• Develop strategies for reaching out and for maintaining their self-esteem through trying times
• Understand how society’s expectations contribute to the risk of parental wounds.
By helping parents recognize what they can do and let go of what they cannot, Dr. Coleman helps families develop more positive ways of relating to themselves and each other.
About the Author
Dr. Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in parenting, couples, families, and relationships. He is a Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families. The author of two critically acclaimed books, The Marriage Makeover and The Lazy Husband, he is a frequent contributor to the San Francisco Chronicle, and his advice has been featured in the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, Psychology Today, the Times (London), and elsewhere. He is a frequent guest on the Today show and has appeared on 20/20, Good Morning America, and many other news programs. He lives with his family in the San Francisco Bay area.
“A wise and helpful book.” — Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., Director, Stanford Forgiveness Projects and author of Forgive for Good
“Joshua Coleman’s book is a gift, offering extraordinary wisdom coupled with practical advice.” — Steven Mintz, Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences and author of Huck's Raft: A History of American Childhood
“An especially healing, practical resource. . .for anyone exhausted by strained, hurtful relationships with their adolescent or grown child.” — --Dr. Linda Nielsen, Professor of Adolescent Psychology & Women's Studies, Wake Forest University and author of Embracing Your Father: Building the Relationship You Always Wanted With Your Dad
“I LOVE this book. [It] is written from such a realistic and compassionate perspective that it is heart-warming.” — Hara Estroff Marano, Editor at Large, Psychology Today; author of A Nation of Wimps
“Exceptionally perceptive.” — --Stephanie Coontz, Author of Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage and The Way We Never Were
“A superb treatment...a unique and groundbreaking approach...an eyeopening read for anyone.” — Library Journal (starred review)
“Coleman’s focus is on helping the parent cope and carry on...an engaging read despite the serious subject matter.” — Publishers Weekly
“An important book that can help parents heal.” — Baltimore Sun
“. . .desperately needed. . . a truly great book for parents, and a great book for therapists who work with families.” — --Heather Folsom, M.D., author and adult and child psychiatrist
“This is an incredibly insightful and sensitively written analysis of a difficult subject. . . .I have recommended it to many of my clients. . . I highly recommend it to all parents who hurt.” — --Jan Levine, Ph.D., co-author of Why Do Fools Fall in Love?