Losing Her, Finding Me: A Mother's Story of Estrangement and Self-Discovery (Paperback)
How does a mother who put her entire identity into her baby the moment she came into the world find herself again when, years later, her grown child cuts all ties?
Michelle Rohlf's unwanted estrangement from her daughter Naomi strips her of everything . . . her grandchildren, her peace of mind, and most of all, herself. In spite of her broken heart and broken spirit, she embarks on a three-year journey of healing and forgiveness, discovering the impact her own upbringing had on her attachment to her daughter. But just asMichelle learns that her life isn't over because her daughter walked away, Naomi shows up again, without apology or explanation.
Much to Michelle's surprise, this reappearance challenges her own recovery from codependency. She finds herself in a struggle to hold on to the sense of self she fought so hard to gain. This is the story of a woman who had to lose her daughter in order to find the identity she'd never really had.
If you are a parent who has become estranged from your child, there is hope. You are not alone in this journey of rejection. The first step toward healing is to work on yourself. Find your own life apart from your child, because you are valuable and the world needs you.